
The relationship is over, or so it seems.
Should I stay to preserve the other's well-being?
Or should I leave to pursue my well-being and aspirations?
The other person in question will most likely not want you to stay and sacrifice yourself for them, but rather for you to be happy by his/her side. And this changes things a lot, because if you are not happy with the other person, it will be difficult for him/her to want unhappy, so it is better to leave.
However, the initial argument was whether A should stay to persevere B's well-being, and we now see that the reasoning was incorrect.
It is essential to discern correctly.
Do I want to leave to fulfill myself, and seek my happiness and well-being?
Or do I want to stay to ensure the other's happiness?
These are two different concerns, right?
On the other hand, another doubt also seems to arise
Among A's aspirations is the happiness of the union AB? Because that being the case, breaking it doesn't solve anything, it just complicates things.
On the other hand, there is also the issue of not having feelings of guilt when leaving! and from there it follows that the real problem is not the dichotomy of leaving or staying, but rather, if leaving, how to leave? And if it staying, how to stay?
Putting things in this light, it seems wise to select the right process and then the step-by-step solution will naturally be:
Try to stay and define what it means to try everything to make the relationship work.
Didn't work?
Then leave. But leave in the most dignified and ethical way, honoring the past love and leaving a memory of having done everything in the most correct way, so that later feelings of guilt or regret do not emerge.
It follows that before considering whether to go or to stay, it is necessary to clarify the ideas and forces that led to the dilemma, asking the right questions: what is at stake? Is it my happiness? My well-being or the well-being of other? The happiness of both? Have we done everything in our power to overcome or fix it?
Because the way we end a relationship will leave an indelible mark on both , its epilogue should be as correct and ethical as we can.
There are many cases where one party refuses to let the other go, overwhelmed by feelings of possession, creating a dramatic if not violent breakup that turns into a nightmare, for the rest of our lives.
This is where it becomes necessary to separate reason from emotion. If it was emotion that fueled love in the beginning, it will have to be the reason that governs in the end to reach an ethical epilogue.
But the correct mastery of reason is something we have to learn how to use. Let us always remember that "life is most often a journey in a chariot pulled by a pair of wild mares which are our irrational impulses and passions" Parmenides dixit (530-460BC)